1001 Questions: “How will you spend your old age?” -Lala Bohang

I think this matter is a little bit hard to think about. It will be around 25-30 years from now and I’m not sure whether I could live until the next few decades.

Neverthless, I have seen a statement in Jouska that we should make a plan for our retirement as early as possible, especially preparing the financial related matters. We need to consider it since the beginning of our career due to the inflation, which keeps increasing. If we only think about our short term plan, then it would be too hard to start taking care of our old age although we have been saving money. Thus, instead of fulfuling our desire to have an outstanding lifestyle in our youth, we have been advised to save money for emergency, make a financial plan for our short term goal, retirement, and make some investment.

In my view, if I start preparing my old days right now then I would like to live in a peaceful county. There would be some times when I travel abroad and see what had been changing if I still have the energy. However, i don’t want to do it alone, but with my husband. So, let’s pray that I would get someone that could be my partner in crime as well.

In my old days, I want to be someone who have a strong bond with my children, especially grandchildren because I’ve never experienced such a moment with my grandparents. i don’t want them to see me as just their grandmother (especially with a stiff relationship), but also their friend. I don’t mind them being outspoken. I would love it  instead because they have courage to speak up their mind. I want them to share their stories and problems. Since I thought I would never make my childish character disappear, then I would love to become their ally and make their parents as our opponents.

If I still have a chance to live this life until the next two or three decades, I want to spend my life in a place that serves a beautiful sunset, a place where I could easily access the beach, and somewhere lavender grows. I just want simple days, but meaningful. I just want to see everything I have never seen when I was young. And, I want to spend my little time in a place where I truly belong.

1001 Questions: “What was on your mind when you woke up this morning?” -Lala Bohang

When I woke up this morning I barely remember the thing that stuck in my mind. There are times that I would remember it, but I mostly don’t. It might be a good sign if we discuss about sleeping quality, but if we talk about productivity it would lead people to have a bad impression.

Having something in mind could mean that you are facing some problems, either it’s from work, school, or your relationship with people around you. And, whether you realize it, you are afraid/at least worry about the problems, too.

Let’s say that you have an assignment from your teacher to wirte a story, then you probably think about the idea anytime and anywhere until you get one. Specially, if you have an issue with creative thinking, you might work harder than any of your friends. In addition, due to its tight deadline you even think about the assignment in your sleep because you are afraid you might not make it. From my experience, this kind of fear probably haunt me in my dream, so in the next morning it would be my alarm to get up. As the effect, I would exhausted because I didn’t have a good sleep in the previous night.

Otherwise, having something in mind means that you have plan for your day. So, you know exactly what you are going to do to start and spend your time. As an illustration, you have made a plan to bake a cake. Therefore, when you are wake up this morning you might think that you should go to supermarket and buy the ingredients before you start working.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter whether you woke up with or without something in your mind. It’s neither an obligation nor something we must avoid because it just come naturally. Having a positive mind at the beginning of your day is certainly nice, but if you accidentally get the negative one, then it would be pleasant if you try to control it. You can try to take a little time to relax or meditate. As an alternative, listening to your favorite music might be helpful, too.

 

 

1001 Questions: “Who keeps you in check?”-Lala Bohang

To those who are lost, worry not, me too. However, I’ve just ralized that the thing that keeps me from moving forward is the lack of (self) questioning, which the act of look ing into myself and find the burdens. Additionally, sometimes, I’m also afraid to give the real answer. It doesn’t mean that I don’t know what has been implicating me, but I’m scared to admit it. So, I decided to make this project with an aim for self introspection.

At the mean time, I take the questions from “The Book of Questions” written by Lala Bohang, but perhaps there would be some questions that come from myself later.


Siapa yang selalu mengingatkanmu?
Who keeps you in check?

Whether you realize it, genreally, people tend to not pay enough attention of the people who have been stay with them. The ones who support them either in their most generous moments or in their sorrow. If I didn’t get this question, considering their presence might never even cross my mind.

This question has just made me wonder the reason why I never thought about it before. Then I realized, there is a main factor that made me hadn’t been aware how important those people are, it is the sense of habit.

In my view, sometimes we usually remember the support that comes from our acquintances instead of from closest relatives. That is when the sense of habiit/familiarity affects us. When your acquintance helps you, you might take it as a debt that should be paid someday in the future. Meanwhile, when the support comes from your friends or close family member, it would be just it. I don’t have an exact explanation to describe it. It’s like your subconscious see it as an ordinary event because it happens constantly. It doesn’t mean that you don’t appreciate their helps. In fact, I think you work mutually and they have your greatest consideration. You’ve just never noticed it since it has become a habit and you are comfortable with them.

On the other hands, this question has certaintly opened my realization that their presence could change, either it is steered by the change of their priority or your relationship. We all know that people come and go in our life although a few of them stay, even forever. If you take a look into your past, you might find there are some people whom had been in your company, but they are gone now. Otherwise, there are some people whom used to be strangers to you, but they affects your life in the present.

So, if you ask me “who keeps me in check?” Besides some of my close friends, I will certaintly answer “my parents.” No matter how far i go, no matter how mad we were when we were arguing, and no matter how presumtuous I might be, they always stay by my side and they always welcome me when I need them. Parents may see your worst character and deal with your worst situation, but they stick with you.